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What makes a good mom? These 8 qualities of a mother will help you develop a close relationship with your child and thrive in motherhood.
We may not outwardly say it, but chances are, we’ve all thought it:
I don’t know if I’m doing this mom thing right.
We won’t always call a friend and admit it. Nor do we get annual reviews or any feedback to measure how we’re doing like we would in a paid job. And most of what we learn about being a mom is a patchwork of experience, peers, and research.
But I hear it time and again from so many moms wondering if they’re doing enough. Feeling scared to screw it up. Afraid of judgment. Carrying a mixed bag of loving motherhood, but secretly missing their old lives before kids.
Guess what though? It’s normal to feel this way.
We think of motherhood like a goal—something to strive for and “achieve.” Instead, the qualities of a mother aren’t outward and achievement-based. Rather, it’s rooted to who we are within.
We shouldn’t aim for perfection, but instead, develop traits that create healthy relationships with ourselves and our kids. Motherhood is a journey, one where we can develop the qualities we’d want to see in our kids.
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8 qualities of a mother
So, what makes a great mom? Let’s take a closer look at this list of the top qualities of a mother. Guaranteed you have many, if not all. If anything, I hope the article reminds you of your many qualities, as it did with these fellow moms:
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With patience, you’re less likely to yell or say things you might regret, especially when it’s crunch time in the morning and you need to get out the door. Being a patient mom is key when it comes to motherhood.
You’re also more likely to accept your child’s behavior, from taking forever to put on his shoes to him testing his boundaries. Patience reminds you that his behavior isn’t outright defiance—it’s part of his and growing independence.
Put it into practice:
- Take breaks! When I feel myself getting frustrated, I’ll tell my boys, “Mommy needs space. I’m going to my room, and I’ll be right back!” It beats the alternative: getting frustrated and losing my temper (then feeling guilty it).
- Slow down. It’s okay not to get everything done this second. Putting so much on yourself causes unnecessary stress. Be kind to yourself—it’s not the end of the world if you don’t get those bills paid/dishes washed/bed made this instant.
- Practice how to respond calmly. Think about your patience with other people besides your kids. You may not be so snappy with your spouse, friends, or co-workers—don’t behave any differently with your kids.
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It’s easy to be snarky, bossy, sarcastic, or disrespectful to our kids, in ways we would never want other to treat them. So why do we do it?
Respect your child for being the unique person he is, not an extension of you. He’s a wonderful, independent person with a budding personality, his own tastes, likes and dislikes, wants and needs.
You might clash over ideals and opinions and disagree more than once, but these are never reasons to treat him any less respectfully.
Put it into practice: Think of how you communicate with him. Then, take a look at this video where I share three important questions you should ask yourself to see if you’re truly being respectful:
Powerful, isn’t it? And if the answer is no to these questions, then it’s time to change course.
Learn 3 ways we unintentionally disrespect kids.
Motherhood takes an emotional toll on even the strongest of women. Fueling your inner strength and being the rock your child can rely on become even more important than ever.
She needs you to reassure her fears and anxieties, to be the one constant that will make transitions less worrisome. That she’ll always have a place to go for comfort. You’re the steadying force in what can feel like a chaotic, confusing world.
So, how do you find strength to be there for her when you barely have enough for yourself?
Put it into practice: Be calm and reasonable. In times of crisis, don’t freak out. One time, I was stuck in our apartment elevator with my son. I knew the elevator did this from time to time, but feeling trapped was still not a good feeling.
If I had been alone, I would’ve had a nervous breakdown: elevated heartbeat, sweaty palms, feeling helpless. But I knew I needed to be strong with him right next to me. My mind went straight into logic mode, and I ran through the steps to get us out of there.
I had to push my worries and fears aside so he would know we were okay—that this was nothing to worry about, and that we’d get out (and of course we did).
Check out these 8 leadership qualities of a mother.
We’re not infallible, so we shouldn’t try to behave like we are.
There’s nothing worse than letting pride get the best of you. Kids need to know that adults make mistakes too. Have you ever tried to cover up something you did because you were embarrassed of letting your kids see?
You can’t expect them to own up to their own mistakes if you never do so to yours. Use this as an opportunity to model how to apologize, even if just so that they can learn how to do the same to others. Be gracious and humble, and they will, too.
Humility is a gentle reminder that we’re on a path of lifelong learning.
Put it into practice:
- Apologize for your mistakes. Swallowing your pride and saying you’re sorry can be difficult, especially with your kids. But think of the example you’re setting for them—and the kind of people you’d want them to be.
- Don’t always try to be right. It’s easy to get into power struggles when you insist on “winning.” Learn to see their point of view and stop focusing on being right all the time.
Empathy is the ability to understand and even share what other people must be feeling. Responding to your child with empathy makes you wonder why he behaved the way he did, instead of launching into full-on discipline mode.
You see, if you’re like many parents, you get sucked into power struggles when he misbehaves. Your eyebrows furrow, you raise your voice, your hands are on your hips. You’ve lined up your arguments and feel all patience draining.
It’s you versus him. And if we’re being honest, it’s an unfair battle when we know who’s going to dominate (hint: you). But when you discipline with empathy, you’re not out to win or lose. Instead, you’re on the same side.
Imagine a teacher and a student gearing up for a big test. The teacher isn’t trying to outdo the student by taking the test and “winning.” Instead, she’s giving him the tools he’ll need to take the test himself and succeed.
Teacher and student are on the same side, just as parent and child should be. This isn’t a battle to be won—you’re both on the same journey.
Put it into practice:
- Ask why your child is behaving this way. Chances are, an underlying reason you haven’t even thought about is lurking beneath his behavior. Think about what he must be feeling and put yourself in his shoes. Would you have behaved the same way if it were you?
- Validate your child. Show or tell him you understand what he must be feeling. Often we just want to be heard—your child is no different.
Learn why every parent needs to show empathy to their kids.
A good mom knows how to be responsive and nurturing, while also showing authority and setting high expectations. After all, kids need boundaries to explore within safe confines.
When my little one started crawling, his pediatrician told me, “It’s your job to set boundaries, and it’s his job to explore within those boundaries.” That advice goes well into toddlerhood and beyond, don’t you think?
It’s our job as parents to provide resources and support so we can set our kids up to learn and grow. Being authoritative is a balance of warmth and support with consistency and high expectations.
Put it into practice:
- Follow through with consequences. Inconsistency will confuse your child. She won’t know what to expect and might act out even more, especially when her actions aren’t met with consistent discipline.
- Set your expectations and make sure she knows what they are. She can’t be held responsible if she doesn’t know what’s expected of her.
- Give choices. Choices will empower and allow her to take ownership of her actions. She’ll be more inclined to comply if the choice was something she decided to do rather than something she was forced to.
Get more tips about how to practice authoritative parenting.
If you struggle with control, this one might be tough to hear.
Because we can raise our kids to follow our values, interests, and principles, but at the end of the day, we can’t form who they are as a person. Forcing them into interests or personalities that are more aligned with ours doesn’t respect their own passions.
Put it into practice:
- Encourage and show interest in your child’s hobbies and passions. Be involved. Provide resources she needs to further her talents, passions, and interests.
- Work with her temperament, instead of forcing her to mold to yours.
Read more about how to support your child’s interests.
My son and I were busy scribbling in notebooks—he with his sketches and me writing notes for this article. He stopped midway and asked, “What are you writing about?”
“An article about what makes a good mom.” I said. Then I paused and asked him, “What do you think makes a good mom?”
Without skipping a beat, he responded, “Love.”
Isn’t that so true? Kids don’t need a ton of things, but a mother’s love is essential.
It’s the language that reassures them they belong in this world and to your family unit. Love binds the unspoken words that say so many things, from tending to a scraped knee to “I-love-you-to-the-moon-and-back” love.
You see, most of us agree we love our kids unconditionally. But do they know that? We smother them with kisses during happy times only to send them away to a timeout when they’re upset.
As I say in my book, Parenting with Purpose:
“We can’t judge their emotions, hugging and kissing them when they’re happy but withholding affection when they’re angry. Our kids will think, ‘Mom kisses me when I feel happy or excited, but then yells or ignores me when I feel sad, angry, or scared.’ We need to love and support them through all emotions—happy or sad, silly or angry.
It boils down to this: The times we least feel like loving our kids are when they need us the most.”
Be there for your child, through all her emotions. She’ll know every one of her feelings are welcome. You don’t pick and choose which ones you’d like her to feel, or withhold your affection when she’s upset.
She knows you love her no matter what, from tickles to tantrums, from “I love you’s” to hurtful words.
She’ll also feel like she can be herself. She doesn’t have to pretend or hide because she knows you accept her for who he is. The more confident she feels about your affection, the less she’ll misbehave.
Reassure her you love her no matter what. That you’ll help her through her worst storms and won’t abandon her when she needs you most—even when she wakes up on the wrong side of the bed.
Put it into practice:
- Convey that you love her no matter what, even when she’s in the middle of a meltdown or when she makes mistakes.
- Remind her that you love her for being who she is. Make sure she knows she doesn’t have to do anything to prove it. Just being born is enough to deserve love.
I can’t think of any other time when being a mom is scrutinized the way it is these days. Motherhood is on display 24/7 thanks to social media, the news, even gossip.
We wage mommy wars on one another, and hear differing opinions on everything, from everyone. Living in the information age has its perks, but you can have too much of a good thing.
But in the midst of all the crazy, what makes for a good mom—and a good person—are the basic characteristics of who we are. The qualities of a mother we’d want to pass on to our kids as well.
We may not always get this mom thing right, but with these qualities—empathy, strength, and love, among others—we see we’re doing better than we thought.
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